When a woman's fed up

.....it ain't nothing you can do about it!

This past week, I found out that a family member killed her husband. Yes, killed him. They were young -- late 20s -- and had a history of domestic violence. They had been together since high school and he's been giving her the blues since day one. I know you're asking "well why didn't she leave?" That's easier to say than to do! The fear of being alone, the fear that you won't find love again and the fear of him will get you and stick you every single time. Been there, done that so I know how hard it is to SAY you're gonna leave than to actually do it.

She's always lived with the thought that she could change him but in the process, it only changed her. I literally watched her go from a bubbly, outgoing person to someone who was just mad at the world. She was a Resp. Therapist and he was a truck driver. Every time we talked, she told me that she was much happier when he was out on the road versus him being at home and to me, that's sad! I enjoy my "me time" and I love to be alone sometimes but I don't like for my husband to be gone for extended periods of time!!

The morning of the incident, they had gotten into it. She was getting ready for work and like many days, they were arguing (probably about something very trivial). While I'm not sure of all of the exact details, I do know that she stabbed him, she called the police (as well as a neighbor who had heard the commotion) and she was doing CPR on him trying to save his life when help arrived. He died at the hospital.

I do value a human life but in cases like this, a part of me is saying he got what he deserved. There's only so much a woman will take before she's fed up and how she reacts is unpredictable. I'm sure she didn't want to take his life -- the chick was doing CPR trying to keep him alive! I do think that she was just tired. But needless to say, she did a crime and yes she has to pay for it. They're charging her with 2nd degree murder and to my understanding she's pleading self defense. She has the grounds for it, given their history. You know it's serious when the police chief goes on record as saying he's been to that house many times and he saw it coming.

So, please pray for them. I don't know why, but the craziest and strangest things happens to my family! I had an uncle who was tried for murder twice and got off and will let you know (but that's a different post for a different day! LOL). Pray for his family as well as ours. Nobody won in this situation -- NOBODY.

In the words of Shirley Murdock, "the sweetest woman in the world can be the meanest woman in the world -- if you make her that way. You keep on hurting her, she keeps being quiet. She might be holding something inside that could really hurt you one day. R.Kelly also told you that "when a woman's fed up, there ain't nothing you can do about it. It's like running out of love then it's too late to talk about it."

I told yall abuse was REAL. If you know someone who is being abused, urge them to seek help. Talk to them, be their backbone, help them see that they are worth more than they're getting.

(I just sounded like a commercial but it's the truth!! LOL)