Seriously, it's not that big of a deal ladies. I saw these questions on a message board. The topic was 2 years old and I didn't feel like registering to reply but since this is a hot topic for many women, I'll beat the dead horse and give my opinion now.
Do you mind if your husband or SO goes to a strip club? No, I don't. It doesn't bother me that he wants to go out with his boys and see chicks shake ass. It's nothing but a club with a lot of scantily clad women, doing their jobs. Maybe some women missed the newsflash but they're dressing very close and dancing just like strippers in regular nightclubs. The difference between these ladies in a regular club and the ladies in a strip club is that the stripper is getting paid, be it from your man or the next. If you're secure and confident in your relationship, then you have nothing to worry about. Let that man go have fun. The more freedom he has in his relationship, the less he's likely to do. And I can promise you if you don't "let" him, he'll do it anyway. With that, the lies about where he's been will always come up. I don't have a problem with my husband going to Onyx or Harlem Knights because I know he'll home home after the show is over. Call it cocky or arrogant, but I call it confidence. I don't even have to wait up to case him on where he's been. Despite what a lot of women many think, strippers do not want your man. His money, yes, but as far as wanting him, they can do without. Also, a lot of times a man will just go to see the ass shake and for the wonderful drink specials. They're not looking to drop $100 on some dancers a night.
Grown women accept it and roll with the punches. We're secure and confident in ours so there's not need to get bent out of shape about going to a strip club (or a titty bar as my Uncle CD calls it). Girls sit and wonder, up all night, arguing with him about going. Sure he'll have guidelines (yours, different from the club's) and if you let him be a man, he'll be good. Treat him like a hormonal teenage boy, he'll act as such.
Do you mind your DH/SO getting private lap dances (no touching)? Once again, no. Forget this "strip club" thing for a minute. I've been at a regular night club and I've seen married men (wedding rings or or even those I know personally) getting dances from all kinds of chicks. So what makes it any different in the strip club? Most clubs don't allow touching anyway so she'll just be doing her thing, him enjoying and everyone is happy.
Would you mind if there were touching involved? For instance your DH/SO is allowed (according to the club) to touch a dancer anywhere except the "g-string" area. In comes the guidelines that you set at home. Most clubs don't allow touching but just in case some do, you let him know where you stand on that. Personally, I'm not a fan of touching. You don't have to touch her to enjoy yourself. With all the touching, anything could happen and she could flip the door on you and say you molested her. I don't agree nor do I accept the touching. But let's be honest ladies, how many men are going to come home and say "I grabbed her ass" or "I touched her tits!"? It's just not gonna happen. The only way you'll know whether or not he's touching on them is if you're in there or you have spies. The key to this is trust. I trust my husband to be a human. I trust him to be a man. I trust him to do what he know is right and I also trust that he'll respect my only wish/rule to the strip club.
If your DH/SO touched a stripper, is that cheating? It's not cheating but it's disrespectful (to me). Being that I don't want touching and he knew before he walked in the door, I would chalk that up as being extremely disrespectful. Again, you'll never know he's touching though unless he tells you, someone else puts you up on game, you see it or it goes too far.
Ladies, strippers aren't that bad. If it bothers you and you want to know what they're doing, why don't you accompany him on a trip? I've been to a few and I don't have bi-curious thoughts/feelings nor am I interested in learning the business. I'm comfortable with myself and my sexuality so being around naked women doesn't bother or arouse me. I went with a few of my female friends and we went strictly for the drinks and because the regular club was closing and we weren't ready to go in (this was pre-children/pre-marriage). You'll actually learn some stuff and I was amazed by what these ladies can do on a pole!! And let's talk about how flexible they are, being on a handstand then all of a sudden they're right side up in a split formation. It's educational and can help you spice your relationship. But the bottom line is let that man be a man. Let him go out with his boys and see a little ass. Nothing is wrong with it.
If you don't know what you can expect, refer back to Ludacris' P-Poppin and Nelly's Tip Drill.
- Do you mind if your husband or SO goes to a strip club?
- Do you mind your DH (dear husband)/SO getting private lap dances (no touching)?
- Would you mind if there was touching involved? For instance your DH/SO is allowed (according to the strip club) to touch a dancer anywhere but the "g-string" area.
- If your DH/SO touched a stripper, is it cheating?
Do you mind if your husband or SO goes to a strip club? No, I don't. It doesn't bother me that he wants to go out with his boys and see chicks shake ass. It's nothing but a club with a lot of scantily clad women, doing their jobs. Maybe some women missed the newsflash but they're dressing very close and dancing just like strippers in regular nightclubs. The difference between these ladies in a regular club and the ladies in a strip club is that the stripper is getting paid, be it from your man or the next. If you're secure and confident in your relationship, then you have nothing to worry about. Let that man go have fun. The more freedom he has in his relationship, the less he's likely to do. And I can promise you if you don't "let" him, he'll do it anyway. With that, the lies about where he's been will always come up. I don't have a problem with my husband going to Onyx or Harlem Knights because I know he'll home home after the show is over. Call it cocky or arrogant, but I call it confidence. I don't even have to wait up to case him on where he's been. Despite what a lot of women many think, strippers do not want your man. His money, yes, but as far as wanting him, they can do without. Also, a lot of times a man will just go to see the ass shake and for the wonderful drink specials. They're not looking to drop $100 on some dancers a night.
Grown women accept it and roll with the punches. We're secure and confident in ours so there's not need to get bent out of shape about going to a strip club (or a titty bar as my Uncle CD calls it). Girls sit and wonder, up all night, arguing with him about going. Sure he'll have guidelines (yours, different from the club's) and if you let him be a man, he'll be good. Treat him like a hormonal teenage boy, he'll act as such.
Do you mind your DH/SO getting private lap dances (no touching)? Once again, no. Forget this "strip club" thing for a minute. I've been at a regular night club and I've seen married men (wedding rings or or even those I know personally) getting dances from all kinds of chicks. So what makes it any different in the strip club? Most clubs don't allow touching anyway so she'll just be doing her thing, him enjoying and everyone is happy.
Would you mind if there were touching involved? For instance your DH/SO is allowed (according to the club) to touch a dancer anywhere except the "g-string" area. In comes the guidelines that you set at home. Most clubs don't allow touching but just in case some do, you let him know where you stand on that. Personally, I'm not a fan of touching. You don't have to touch her to enjoy yourself. With all the touching, anything could happen and she could flip the door on you and say you molested her. I don't agree nor do I accept the touching. But let's be honest ladies, how many men are going to come home and say "I grabbed her ass" or "I touched her tits!"? It's just not gonna happen. The only way you'll know whether or not he's touching on them is if you're in there or you have spies. The key to this is trust. I trust my husband to be a human. I trust him to be a man. I trust him to do what he know is right and I also trust that he'll respect my only wish/rule to the strip club.
If your DH/SO touched a stripper, is that cheating? It's not cheating but it's disrespectful (to me). Being that I don't want touching and he knew before he walked in the door, I would chalk that up as being extremely disrespectful. Again, you'll never know he's touching though unless he tells you, someone else puts you up on game, you see it or it goes too far.
Ladies, strippers aren't that bad. If it bothers you and you want to know what they're doing, why don't you accompany him on a trip? I've been to a few and I don't have bi-curious thoughts/feelings nor am I interested in learning the business. I'm comfortable with myself and my sexuality so being around naked women doesn't bother or arouse me. I went with a few of my female friends and we went strictly for the drinks and because the regular club was closing and we weren't ready to go in (this was pre-children/pre-marriage). You'll actually learn some stuff and I was amazed by what these ladies can do on a pole!! And let's talk about how flexible they are, being on a handstand then all of a sudden they're right side up in a split formation. It's educational and can help you spice your relationship. But the bottom line is let that man be a man. Let him go out with his boys and see a little ass. Nothing is wrong with it.
If you don't know what you can expect, refer back to Ludacris' P-Poppin and Nelly's Tip Drill.
No one could've said it better = D
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Thank You!! Women have to stop thinking everytime a man goes to a strip club he's cheating. A man don't need to go to a strip club to cheat, if he wants to cheat he will regardless. Strip clubs helps keep the spice in a relationship.
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